Category Archives: Law

Kittie’s Littered Musings, #4

I promise, Sunday night will be the end of the DeadLife Nightmare for now. I have too much research to make any more of it believable, even in a make-believe place. For now, I’ll just post a few jumbled thoughts on other things until I do my next batch of poetry.


As a Christian, I believe very strongly in truth. I believe in simple, unvarnished truth. Yet, I have a question about truth and integrity and reality.

Suppose the truth of any scenario could be likened to a 12-faceted diamond. I can review any of the 12 sides I wish, and I see all twelve sides.

Now, let’s say I work with Larry, Moe, and Curly. If I choose to show sides 1, 10, 11, 12 to Larry; sides 2, 7, 8, 9 to Moe; and 3, 4, 5, 6 to Curly; am I being dishonest for not showing all three people the whole truth?

Or is my integrity dependent on motive?

Let’s say none of the three people have the wherewithal–intellectual, spiritual, or emotional–to handle the whole truth, am I wrong to only give them what they can handle?

Does that change if I know that any of the three are inclined to violence? What if by showing Larry 3 or 4 or 5, I incite him to violence? Am I wrong for withholding that information to protect others?


I was quite dismayed when a Congressional leader said we had to pass a bill to see what was in it. I recognize it was thousands of pages of legalese, but that is what we elected you to do.

As a result, I propose (as the writer I am) that henceforth all lawmaking bodies be immediately constrained to the following rules:

  • No law shall be written to more than five pages.
  • All legal text shall be at least 14-point font with double-spacing.
  • The text for all laws shall be written to a sixth-grade reading level in the official formal language of the legislating body.

What do the rest of you think?

Han Characters

I have been blessed to be studying Mandarin for about a year now as part of my job. I took the official online lessons from a business named for an archaeological artifact. But it was missing some key things, including music and Han character development.

Now that the course is finished, I am going back and using Youtube to find contemporary songs with English, Han, and pinyin. I also found a foreign broadcasting company’s game that will teach me to draw about 50 characters.

Some lessons I’ve learned:

  • The Chinese are truly smarter than most Westerners. By the time we’re congratulating ourselves for knowing 26 characters, they have learned 1400+ depending on the school they attend.
  • I lack the fine motor coordination to do Han characters justice. The space for drawing them is divided differently, and you have to produce the strokes in the character in a certain order and direction. I am afraid I am just creating some sick Rorschach images.
  • Do not listen to Chinese songs if you’re depressed. They are all about lost love, lost jobs, missing people. I think I’ve found only one happy one, and most sources call it the worst earworm ever created in K-pop.
  • All hearts have a God-shaped hole that only God can fill. Character after character has some form of a cross in it; it has kept me centered and re-centered on Christ throughout my day. It’s almost like the need for Christ was foreshadowed in the development of the language.

Please help me understand the (il)logic…

I’ve been trying tuna for about the last six or eight months. I had a favorite brand (won’t mention any names, but it’s brand is similar to an insect of the Genus Bombus), until right around the time my daughter was diagnosed with soy allergies.

Now, when I bought the brand, the labeling on the front of the can stated it was packed in water. Foolish me, I was too tired from reading 2-point font everywhere to actually look on the back in the ingredients list.

When I turn it over, it also has vegetable broth in it. Now, it does say water in the list, but it also has vegetable broth and the allergen lists soy.

So, we have cans to go to a local food pantry.

Now, I need someone to explain to me how vegetable broth and water can be simply labeled as water on the front of the can. Yes, I goofed; a trip to the supermarket can be exhausting when you can’t purchase anything with soy, corn, tomatoes, or artificial chemicals. But somehow, it is more logical to simply label it as tuna instead of misleading uneducated or tired consumers into purchasing something looking like it’s packed in water instead of something that’s packed in more than water.

Now, I did try to contact the maker of said products about the issue. They did admit they do use soy sometimes. And they helpfully tried to suggest another product. Obviously, they don’t live on a budget… the other product was far more expensive.

So now, I need to understand why it’s more expensive to pack tuna in water, only water, pure water, cool water, clear water. Somehow, from all my time in the kitchen, I’ve found it far more costly in time, effort, and energy, to heat water, clean vegetables, and boil vegetables.

So, while I wait for the explanation, I’ve switched to another brand… something about Mother Earth and a vow.

Hope this warning helps all of you be more on your toes! Also hope grocery shopping isn’t the olympic mathathon for you that it is for me.  🙂


Top 13… Or Why My Childhood Home Is My Adult Home

Many years ago, as I was leaving my ex, I moved home with my parents because three kids under five was not ideal for being a professional working woman in the real world. As the kids’ needs were identified, the help was still given and needed. I happily negotiated to buy the house from my mom when we thought the time was right.

I never dreamed I’d grow weary and want to leave. Four years ago, I’d met my current husband, and we’d talked about selling both our places and buying something in between. As much as I love the little school that I grew up in, and as much as the teachers are “kick @55” professionals who exponentially maximize what little they have, I knew that the kids needed subjects and classroom techniques that were different (and more expensive) than the little school could afford.

I also never dreamed I’d be legally blocked. Check out this link, and then come on back for my commentary:

Now that you’ve read it, if you’re in the US, and considering divorce, you might want to check your state’s laws. I saw a figure that indicated that at least 80% of the states had similar laws.

Also, realize that what is so simply stated in the law becomes a 23-question form in which every aspect of the move is analyzed. The custodial parent has to prove that it really is good for the child. In addition, you have to exhaustively demonstrate that the move is not because you and the non-custodial parent don’t get along well. *begins giggling maniacally and darting eyes paranoidly*

It’s funny how as soon as something becomes incredibly difficult it starts to be incredibly desired. It’s worse when you have to get the equivalent of permission from someone you didn’t get along with enough to stay married to. And then there were the relationship issues (he was nasty at times and wouldn’t get help, but I digress…).

So how do you survive when you can’t fight and you can’t take flight?

Laughter… you find something funny in the situation and focus on the humor until it doesn’t bother you quite so much.

Now, I will warn you: I tend to go for the dark, gallows humor. It’s very dry, and it doesn’t seem funny until you’re living it.

So without further adieu, here is my attempt at laughter. I am going to do a critical, practical, earth mother analysis of the top issues with this law. Now, most people do a top 10. However, 13 has always been my favorite number.

So, I am going to copy the top 10 from a recent FB post I made to my friends, and then, through the magic of writing, add three more to expand it. And yes, I will block my kids’ account from accessing that post 🙂

13: Keeping connections where no connection exists anymore… except DNA… which may be no connection at all…

12: Assuming that laws can force the things that didn’t exist in marriage… you know, clear communication, considerate collaboration, and constant cooperation…

11: Presuming that the esteemed courts truly understand what children need..

10: Increasing a county’s profits by increasing the numbers of filing fees for custody related documentation…

09: Ensuring the future draw on social security is decreased through shortened lives due to chronic stress…

08: Creating even more work (and fees) for lawyers and their staff members… as well as child development professionals as both sides seek custody evaluations…

07: Building and sustaining a state’s and county’s tax base for about a decade (and possibly a town’s or school district’s)…

06: Decreasing the financial stability of the custodial parent through forcing court action and possibly preventing better, more gainful employment…

05: When relocation is permitted, ensuring the custodial parent’s every movement is tracked down to the GPS coordinates…

04: Enforcing continued long-term negativity and drag for a childhood…

03: Helping custodial parents achieve maximum spiritual challenge through a burgeoning number of opportunities for spiritual growth…

02: Inflicting a decade or more of cruel and unusual punishment for a decision made with a less wise decision-making process….

And the top item on the list

01: Making life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness meaningless…